Goals and Motivation

I am now a mother, my priorities has changed. I now know what I want and for who too. The trick is getting there. That I will digress later.

Now, I want to indulge myself with what I want for my future in year 2015.

I want to be with my husband and act like teenagers.

I want to spend time with my baby girl, spend time to be a family and go for cheap picnics.

By 2015, I want to own an apartment.

Ok, this is a picture of an upper class condo. but I though it will be lame if i inserted a boring picture of any old apartment. Plus, there might be a chance i will be living in a condo. Cant a girl dream?

I will decorate it modestly. No need for anything fantastic. Just the basics but looking nice, clean and comfy. =)

Then I want to spend 1 evening every week after dinner with my family, sitting on the couch watching a movie we chose together or maybe a movie our baby girl has chosen.

Ok, we might turn up looking like this. But i once heard from my ex dance instructor that couches ruins our posture.. 

Or I might get us all tatami mats or something like that to sit on and then we can all do stretches while watching tv. Why not?

Plus, I want our lives to be in order. Although not exactly like this. But..........

Definitely not like this. 

 And to make this all into reality instead of just building castles in the air, I need my INCOME!!
And in order to get that, I will need to study hard and finish my course!!
And get a job!!!

Aza aza fighting!
ok, i said that because im so in love with the Korean series "Full House".

I hope that somebody from the writing world will look up this blog and go, "hey, maybe this girl has some potential writing. And you know what? I will offer to be her mentor." or something similar..
hmm . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Choices to Happiness

Our lives are what we make of it. It is the kind of choices we make. There will be minor decisions like what to eat for breakfast to big decisions such as whether or not to accept your boyfriend’s marriage proposal. How about some people who claim they did not or refuse to make a choice? Let’s say the situation is thus: Sam is going out for lunch with his parents and his wife. His parents are traditional folks and prefer eating traditionally made Chinese meals. His wife is a modern woman who loves Western meals. Sam is trapped in the middle. He is a filial child who always follows what his parent says; on the other hand, he is a dotting husband, giving his wife everything she can ever wish for. How should he decide what to do? Sam sought out a hotel that offers a buffet spread consisting of traditional Chinese food and also Western food.

Was that refusing to make a choice? No. That was Sam making a choice to accommodate both his parents and his wife. You see, refusing to make a choice is also a choice. No matter what, our lives is the choice we make. I see a man, working as a mechanic, trying to provide 2 meals for his family of 5. He whistles and put a smile on his face when going to work. Then I see another man, driving a car, wearing a suit and tie, in the middle of a traffic jam. He swears and is never courteous on the road, but he owns the car he drives, an apartment and he has a girlfriend. The first man is suffering financially and the second man has almost everything he can ask for. But comparatively, why is the poorer man happier? Because he is easily satisfied? Maybe. Or maybe he chooses to be happy with what he has. No doubt his life must be tough, but who says that having money will make you happy? I asked the poorer man, are you happy? And he says “our (he and his family) lives may be difficult, but we are happy. We may not have what other’s call a normal live because me and my wife go out to work the whole day and my eldest child, 10 years old, have to cook and take care of the younger 2 but we are happy”.

Happiness is and can be a choice. The society tells us we need this we need that to be happy. Because it is their job! If a business man cannot get people to buy his goods, he is a bad business man. If a marketer or an advertiser cannot get you to buy the product they are trying to sell, they are not good at their job! But does this mean that we have to have what these people are telling us to have? These are just tools to help make your live easier. But you can do without it! Happiness is not rated by how easy your life is, it is not rated by how much things you own or can own. Happiness is a simple thing, to just enjoy life as it comes by, regardless of anything that life hurls in your way, regardless of the hurdles you have to cross. Happiness is, ultimately, a choice.

I once received an e-mail. It was about an old man who is going to an old folk’s home. A young cross chap was showing the old man to his room. The chap said: “you better not hope too much from this room” and the old man smiled back and replied: “ah, I like my room”. The chap was puzzled: “you’ve seen the room?” Then the old smiled even wider and said: “every morning, I wake up and I make a decision. And it is to be happy. No matter what happens, I will be happy. It is a choice I make every morning. No one can take this away from me.”

So, what are you waiting for? Be happy today. =)