Why take a Job?

I need a job, everyone needs a job.

Some people need jobs to fulfill their time.

Most people need jobs to fulfill their needs.

We need appreciation.

We need recognition.

We need money.

We need status.

But most often, people are pressured to get a job to fit in. Getting a job means that you are contributing to the family, the company, the nation, the world. Getting a job means that you are not useless. Having and maintaining a job means that you are a responsible, mature adult who plans ahead for rainy days. Someone you can depend on, a person who will be able to provide for the family.

But that is what a job is to someone else. What about what a job is to you?

Is it a means of getting money?

Is it something that you do from 9am -5pm for 5days a week?

Is it somewhere you go so that no one will complain that you are wasting your life away?

Is it something you do for 20years and then one day, sitting where you usually sit in at work, doing what you usually do for work, seeing the usual people you see for work, people you have come to hate but at the same time the people who you have come to want, you suddenly asked yourself this questions, "what am I doing here?".

You don't want to be that person. You don't want to ask yourself what have you been doing this past 20years. You don't want to be asking yourself "what about my dream when I was in college/school?".

So do not take a job because someone pressured you to take a job.

Take a job because you want to!

Take a job because it is something you will wake up and look forward to.

Take a job even though it gives you headaches, it gives you chills, it gives you cramp legs and carpal tunnel, simply because you love it. That it makes you feel good after a hard day's work.

It makes you feel like you are changing someone's life or the earth. It gives you a purpose.

Don't let your job be "Just Obey Boss". Let it be a purpose. Let it make you happy too.

Venting

I just want to vent today.

So if u hate people who vent, please stop reading.

Because this is going to be looooooooooooong.

Vent about my babysitter.

I think she is trying to turn my baby into a night owl.

I dont understand what she is saying when i ask her how much milk baby is drinking.

Vent about my mother.

She thinks that i should let the babysitter do whatever she wants to keep her happy.

She thinks that i should not say anything or ask anything about what my baby is doing in her house for fear of upsetting her. She thinks that if i make the babysitter unhappy, the babysitter will take it out on my baby.

She thinks that it's ok for me to be stuck in this damn house when she complains about how she cannot stay in this house.

I think that she is tactless.

But she just thinks that im irresponsible, lazy, useless. And the only thing I can be proud of is that i managed to BF my baby.

Which is nothing, because she didnt BF me and im still living today w/o any major health issues.

Also, when there is any problem regarding my baby, ei. sleeping patterns is disturbed, her first suggestion is to stop BF.

She is not supportive of my BF, but will try to get people who knows how to BF to help me out, but will encourage me to try out formula.

End of venting.

Breastfeeding Prob 1 - inverted nipple

*read in sifu way*

Since i can now claim that i can breastfeed my baby well and efficiently, i will pass on some wisdom and knowledge to u.

When i started off breastfeeding, i had ALOT of problems!

Pregnant mothers who are thinking of breastfeeding yr babies, do not be fooled by the books!

It is NOT easy and it does NOT come naturally!

At least not to me. A child who grew up in a family who had never had anyone who breastfed their babies.

I had, what the nurses called, inverted nipple where my nipple sinks into my breast. And to overcome this, i had to hold my nipples in a "scissors hold". This is where I use my index finger and my middle finger to form a "peace sign" or as if im holding an imaginary cigarette. They asked me to pull my nipples by holding my nipple in between those 2fingers and then offer it to the baby.

Well, I tried it repeatedly yet my baby still could not feed from my breast. And then the nurses gave up and said "well, if u did plan on breastfeeding your baby, u should had made sure that u didnt have inverted nipples".

What a load of tosh!

I read what i could on books and online about breastfeeding. And they always say the same thing, "breastfeeding is easy and natural, just make sure u have skin-to-skin contact immediately after your delivery". I even went for some breastfeeding classes prior to my delivery, but the lactation consultant only said "u dont have to worry, just have an open mind and it will come naturally".

So i was discharged on the third day after delivery, still unable to breastfeed my baby. After a few days, i visited the lactating consultant and got an advice, "use a nipple shield". Because your baby will be able to latch on efficiently on the shield and suck the milk from it, in the meantime, your baby will also be sucking out your nipples so that in the future, u will be able to breastfeed without the shield.

Viola! It worked, my baby latched on well and she is getting mummy's milk! But this only went well for about 2-3weeks. After that, I met with another problem.

Stay tuned for "Breastfeeding Prob 2 - nipple confusion"

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